Virtual therapy for anxious women who have mixed identities, grew up too fast, and wish to feel grounded in themselves throughout New York State.

You learned how to read the room and everyone in it before you learned how to read yourself. Now you’d give anything not to have to be in the room at all. 

You are intuitive. You’re independent. People know they can trust you to show up and handle things. Others can lean on you when they need to. They see you come into the room and they exhale in relief. You can make things work with just about anyone if you had to. 

The role you play in others’ lives has kept you safe for a long time.

Maybe you’ve been told that you’re the problem solver at work. Maybe your friends have even called you the “mom” of the group. You see yourself as a fixer. But something in you worries that if you let yourself relax, you’d find that you hate being seen this way. You dread phone calls from family members and you don’t have the energy to think about why. You pack your schedule full to avoid being alone with yourself.  People think they know you, but they have never really seen you; and you prefer it that way. You float through the day worried that someone will notice you and then you’ll fall apart.

You feel detached from yourself, your loved ones, and life feels heavier than ever. You’re angrier. Sadder. The air feels thick with grief over something you’re not sure you lost. You feel like you could sleep for weeks and it still wouldn’t be enough, because the depth of this exhaustion feels like it’s in your bones. But you’re nervous that if you rest, you might not be able to come back.

Nothing surprises you, because you are ready for anything.

Old patterns are showing up in your life and you’re not sure what to do about them. You want to be taken care of, but you don’t trust that anyone will be able to. Relationships feel confusing because you want to open up to people, but you’re afraid you’ll be too much, or that the conflict will be burdensome.

Emotions feel like an inconvenience.

You know how you feel, you just don’t believe you have a right to feel it. You thought you had dealt with everything from your past. You just don’t have the time for this right now. Why is it coming back up now?  Nothing is really that bad, right? 

I want you to take a breath before you read the next part.

You don’t have to fix anything this time. Nothing is actually broken. You’re a human. A good one; and you’re exhausted. You can soften in a world that has tried to harden you. You can be all that you are and still belong. You do not need to have the answers.  

When you are ready, I am here to help you.

I’m Gina (she/they). I’m a queer identifying, eldest child, mixed race therapist licensed in New York. I provide relational, trauma-centered therapy for women with mixed identities navigating trauma, mother/parent wounds, complex relationships, chronic illness / dynamic disability, complicated grief, and the experience of never quite feeling at home in the world around them. You can read more about what I do here.